[TPIN] Co-existing On A Gig

[Steve Evans]

--- Robert DeSavage <beaglebob6192 at comcast.net> wrote:

> touching on how husbands and wives, S.O.'s, life partners, and the like who
> are musicians that might have occasion to work gigs together?

I'm surprised at what I've read so far. My wife, who also plays trumpet, and I have no
problems working gigs together. In fact we both enjoy it. We are regular members of a
symphony orchestra, concert band, big band, quintet, and several pit orchestras. Neither
of us act any different in those groups as we do any other time we're together. We also
use to play duets together almost every night until my wife had a problem with her jaw
after a dental procedure over a year ago. I posted about it last year looking for
advice. She has not fully recovered from that and consequently plays through the pain,
playing very little these days.

Maybe it's because we're both trumpet players and neither of us has a big ego (try to
comprehend), but I think it's more likely that we both just enjoy each other's company.
On the gig, if I'm playing lead, she follows. When she makes suggestions, I listen. And
if we're playing quintet music, we're both listening to each other. It's about the
music, not the player. We occasionally have musical differences but we put egos aside
and work differences out just like we would with any other musician we respect. Plus, we
have mutual friends. And when we hang after rehearsals or gigs, we're just two people in
a group of friends having a good time. 

I can't imagine being with someone and not sharing music. It's such a big part of my
life that if I couldn't share it with my wife in some way, we would have very little
time together. Oh yeah... except we both work day jobs for the same company. Hmmm...

...Steve


__________________________________________________
Do You Yahoo!?
Tired of spam?  Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around 
http://mail.yahoo.com