[TPIN] Difficult Band Member

[Fraser Hutchinson]

What I wasn't clear about (I guess I was trying to not color the issue) is
how he is not bringing it up, It is not in a "I think there are tuning
issues", but more of a "You suck as a lead player cause you're out of tune".
It is *not* brought up in a productive manner, but clearly, as you point
out, in a divisive one.

FWIW, no one else has said anything at all, and the defacto band leader has
said that he thinks it sounds fine. 

It is true, I am aware of certain times that I tend to go sharp if I am not
supporting sufficiently, and I am working on it. My occasional 'pitchiness'
is hardly unique in the band, FWIW, not to the trumpet section. I am not
saying that as a crutch, just to point out that he never complains about
anyone else's tuning issues, just mine.

So I still don't know how to handle this. I should amend the statement you
quoted below to "I would not hesitate to hire on a gig, save for his
attitude".


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Fraser Hutchinson
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Trumpet, flugelhorn, keyboards, composer, arranger.
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The thing is, he's a good section player that I would not hesitate to hire
on a gig. I am not looking to replace him.\

What would you guys do?

Thanks!

Fraser
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

How good he plays is really not the issue, yet it is easy to
include that aspect into the discussion - it's hard to keep
it out.  The issue is his attitude and behavior, and how that
ultimaltely and profoundly affects others, and this should
NOT become a case of you taking the "just shrug it off"
approach.  I know only FAR TOO WELL that allowing a place 
within a group for someone with divisive behavior is truly a case of
sowing seeds of destruction.  A person who does this is displaying
antisocial behavior, and it's much better to work with a positive
person who may not be as fine a player, becasue THAT kind of person
can learn, can listen, can be encouraged to improve - whereas the
know-it-all already knows everything and has nowehre to go
in their betterment...so invite them to leave.

Please post this to TPIN, along with any response you may have,
becasue my aol system doesn't let me post.  I think it has
some hyper-spam filters.  MA explained it and recommended that
I set up a Yahoo account.  Thank you!

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